Making Things Exclusive – How Should You Go About it?

Read below for the question and my response on how I think guys should approach it.

Hey Marina, wanted to ask for your advice. Been seeing someone for almost 2 months been on 10 dates, really like her. I’m hesitant because I’m not sure if she wants a relationship. How do you go about asking someone to be exclusive?


Hey Jeff! Good to hear from you. I don’t think it’s really necessary to have that “talk”. Just keep doing what you’re doing and enjoy each other’s company. It will naturally grow and progress if both people like each other. If you’re concerned whether she’s on the same page, just be a little more patient w her and keep seeing her. Sometimes girls need more time before they’re fully on board. But that doesn’t necessarily mean you need to have a serious talk before you take it to a new level intimately either. Just keep the relationship progressing, keep it moving along organically without any serious talks. The less pressure the better overall.  Keep having fun and focus on just enjoying yourselves! If for some reason she’s not on board, she’ll let you know. And if she’s concerned whether you’re seeing other girls, she’ll bring it up. If the relationship is progressing, you’re going to be spending a lot of time together so it’ll be almost a given that you’re exclusive. 
In a month or so you can just in a cute way start calling her your girlfriend. Like, maybe throw in a “sweet dreams girlfriend 😘”. She’ll get the point that you want a serious relationship w her.  Make sure that on these dates you’re opening up more and more and the intimacy and trust is developing.  Don’t just keep your conversations on the surface.  Have deeper conversations, talk about goals, what you’re looking for in an ideal relationship, all that stuff.  That’s how you build that lasting connection and get on the same page.  Good luck!