Online Dating is an easy way to meet singles, but with the growing # of people online, it’s very easy to get lost in all the profiles, messages, and “winks”. I’ve posted two blogs about what Not to do in your profiles, but want to really focus on using the Messaging feature of online dating. The first message is extremely important. Here’s a way to guarantee that you don’t lose her interest before she has a chance to check you out.
Follow this checklist & you’ll increase your chances of being noticed:
1. Make an Observation
If you want to get a reply from this woman, make sure you actually took the time to learn about her by reading her profile. Select one interesting topic that she talked about and focus in on that.
2. Share something about Yourself
Sticking to the same topic, share something about yourself. It could be a joke, a story, or just that you love it too. Something a little more in depth and a few words showing your personality is ideal.
3. Lead to a Date
I said Lead, not ask for a date immediately. Asking a girl out in the first message is creepy, but showing that you’re interested in taking the conversation there is intriguing and shows us that you’re not going to chit-chat with us for a month before actually asking us out. Having a man display assertiveness and confidence in the first interaction is…well, hot. Nothing is sexier than a man who knows what he wants and who’s a gentleman in his approach.
Below are examples of messages I’ve received. The ones in GREEN are great – they cover all of the Must’s that your first messages should include.
These men showed that they’ve read my profile, their own personality comes through, and are being assertive while leading the conversation to an actual meeting.
THIS IS MY FAVE MESSAGE RECEIVED SO FAR:
Totally not making any assumptions here… IF you decided that you wanted to meet me for happy hour sometime, and we got along well and decided to continue to hang out, I would gladly taste-test any fancy meal that you would like to cook.
I think it’d be fun if we did a cooking class together sometime. What do you think?
Hope to hear from you.
Hey I read your profile and you seem pretty interesting. Let me know if you want to grab a drink sometime.
Hello, Every once in awhile you see someone, and without knowing anything else about them you know that you would enjoy their company. It has to do with facial characteristics and body posture. Anyway, I don’t know much about you, but I know that you would be fun to spend time with and to get to know better