Making Things Exclusive – Should You Have the Talk?

Making Things Exclusive - How Should You Go About it?

Read below for the question and my response on how I think guys should approach it.

Hey Marina, wanted to ask for your advice. Been seeing someone for almost 2 months been on 10 dates, really like her. I'm hesitant because I'm not sure if she wants a relationship. How do you go about asking someone to be exclusive?
Jeff

 

Hey Jeff! Good to hear from you. I don't think it's really necessary to have that "talk". Just keep doing what you're doing and enjoy each other's company. It will naturally grow and progress if both people like each other. If you're concerned whether she's on the same page, just be a little more patient w her and keep seeing her. Sometimes girls need more time before they're fully on board. But that doesn't necessarily mean you need to have a serious talk before you take it to a new level intimately either. Just keep the relationship progressing, keep it moving along organically without any serious talks. The less pressure the better overall.  Keep having fun and focus on just enjoying yourselves! If for some reason she's not on board, she'll let you know. And if she's concerned whether you're seeing other girls, she'll bring it up. If the relationship is progressing, you're going to be spending a lot of time together so it'll be almost a given that you're exclusive. 
In a month or so you can just in a cute way start calling her your girlfriend. Like, maybe throw in a "sweet dreams girlfriend 😘". She'll get the point that you want a serious relationship w her.  Make sure that on these dates you're opening up more and more and the intimacy and trust is developing.  Don't just keep your conversations on the surface.  Have deeper conversations, talk about goals, what you're looking for in an ideal relationship, all that stuff.  That's how you build that lasting connection and get on the same page.  Good luck!

Cheers

Marina

2 Responses

  1. If your partner only talks a good talk, but doesn’t walk the walk, take it as a red flag that trustworthiness may not be one of their strong points. Do you continue to share more intimate details with each other over time, and find that you can trust your partner with this information?

  2. Rushing into an exclusive relationship before you’re sure can lead to disaster later on. Take your time and make sure this one is a keeper. She is devoted to helping others live and love passionately by gaining the confidence to be authentic in their own lives.

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